Transition is defined as a movement, development, or evolution from one form, state, stage, or style to another, a passage that necessarily involves change. By definition, recovery is most certainly a time of transition. Being in transit means different things for different people, and having mixed feelings about change, even positive alterations, is perfectly normal. In and of itself recovery requires additional changes such as new behaviors and it may involve ancillary changes such as moving to a new city, not frequenting places that you once did and/or not spending time with people you once did. Transitions bring with them the opportunity for growth and new beginnings but in the end, transitions are change and change is simply not something most of us welcome with open arms–even when it beckons with tremendous benefits.
Resisting The Change
Think about it: with change comes resistance. It is a truism that when one door closes another one opens, but during that in-between time, when we are neither here nor there life can seem a bit unstable, a little tenuous and a lot scary! Living away from home, as is the case in a recovery residence, is actually one of life’s most significant and memorable events according to experts. In fact, this life transition even has a name: relocation bump. Moving is a significant event, one that etches itself into memory in a most unique way.
In addition to recovery, here are some examples of life transitions both positive and negative:
- Moving or relocating
- Financial gain or loss
- Arrival of a new baby
- Divorce or separation
- Job loss
- Career changes
- Death of a loved one
- Serious illness
Dealing with any one of these transitions (not to mention several at one time) can be tough, but there are strategies you can use to navigate the rocky waters.
Moving More Than Just Belongings
First of all, as studies show, moving one’s residence or living outside your familiar home, is a huge event that has the power to influence your life for many years going forward. As one of life’s transitions, relocating can be stressful and one we’d rather put behind us, but you may want to consider letting it’s significance sink in and giving this transition the power it deserves in your life. Living in a recovery residence shows your commitment to yourself in a powerful and tangible way, one that cannot be disputed. As such, giving your decision the recognition and respect it deserves can solidify its influence on your life.
Second, realize that part of the reason why transitions are challenging because they shake up one’s sense of identity. This can be especially true if you’re in the middle of a relocation bump and a large part of your identity comes from your environment. This applies in a variety of situations, whether the transition involves relocating for a job, moving in with a spouse or living in a recovery residence living home. In all of these cases, there will be some degree of disorientation while you get used to your new surroundings.
In cases such as these, it will help to reflect on what you stand to gain from your transition. In other words, stop to appreciate the upside of your new arrangement and the long-term benefits you’ll receive. Ask yourself: how will my relationships grow, what are the opportunities I will gain by being sober, what are the dreams I can pursue in my new life?
Next, don’t forget to use your social support network. Experts tell us that having a group of supportive friends, family members, and contacts is crucial to managing stress and coming out on the other end. Twelve-step groups are a fantastic way of connecting with individuals going through similar circumstances, and you can also find a variety of online support groups where people share practical tips as well as emotional support. The importance of having a solid support system during times of transition cannot be overstated. Our stable and healthy connections keep us grounded and offer a safe haven during the storm. Make a list of all of the people who you can really talk things over with and don’t hesitate to call on them when you need a bit of encouragement or a reason to smile.
This next tip is similar to the one above and calls for using positive role models as inspiration for your journey. Your role models may come from your personal life or from the multitude of high-profile individuals who have shared their own success stories. Lady Gaga and Cameron Douglas are just two of the celebrities who have been very vocal about their own struggles, and in doing so have helped millions of people in similar circumstances. Or, maybe you have a close friend or relative who has battled demons and won the war and serves as a real-life role model.
Lastly, remind yourself that change is inherent to life. Without change, life as we know it would come to a screeching halt. If you need proof, take a look outside your window or step outside your door. The sky, trees, flowers and even the air itself is constantly changing. Friends will come and go throughout our lifetimes, our priorities will change, and the possessions we cherish today could be distant memories tomorrow. In other words, change happens–instead of fighting it, try befriending it and see what happens!
Lifelong recovery is possible: all you need to do is reach out. Starbent Recovery was founded on the belief that people suffering from addictive disorders, trauma, and other co-occurring issues can thrive in the right environment. Our professional, dedicated staff have the understanding, experience, and compassion necessary to support each resident’s clinical treatment team goals. We offer individualized tier level programs and guidance with residents’ personal recovery and independent living goals. Our safe, peer residence offers luxury amenities and is located in the heart of upscale Tribeca close to multiple subway lines and surrounded by trendy dining and shopping. To learn more about our premier women’s recovery residence, call us at (800) 673-0176.